On July 24th it will officially be six months since I gave birth to Natalie. I can state the obvious and say ” a lot has happened since this time last year”, but I think that goes without saying. What I can do is reflect on the changes not only physically, but mentally and emotionally. Birthing a baby changes you and raising one tests and strengthens you.
I am a planner and I cannot help it. Not only do I like to know the who, what, when, where and why’s, but more often then not I like to plan the who, what, when, where and why. So needless to say pregnancy is teaching me a lesson or two about plans and how to roll with the punches (and kicks and twirls).
- Is this a teaching hospital? Can I expect interns/students to be present during my delivery?
- Is skin to skin immediately after birth an option?
- Is their the option of delayed cord clamping?
- what happens in the event that my baby is in distress and requires NICU attention? Do you have the setup here? Or will they be transferred to another facility? Will I be in transport?
- What security measures are in place to protect me and my baby?
- Eating and drinking light foods
- Taking walks and stretching (until I receive an epidural)
- Minimal cervical checks, unless medically necessary
- To labor until at least 7cm dilated then get an epidural
- To not receive pitocin (unless absolutely necessary)
- Fetal monitoring
- To labor in water if I choose to
- Low lighting
- Just my husband in the room with me
In birth (pushing) I’d prefer:
- To deliver out of water
- To be offered a mirror to see the baby crowning
- To be helped/guided when pushing if their is slow progress
- To catch the baby myself if possible
- Cord to stay attached until it stops pulsating
- My husband to cut the cord if he chooses
- To be shown my placenta
- For all newborn exams and procedures to happen with me present
- No mother/baby separation if medically possible
- To be informed of all procedures that are being performed on my newborn
- To have my baby room with me
- To keep my baby with me until she has breastfed successfully on both sides (if medically possible)
- Administer erythromycin eye prophylaxis
- Administer Vitamin K injection
- Apply the pulse ox to my baby during newborn exam
In case of a cesarean birth I’d prefer
- To be awake
- To have my partner with me during birth
- I understand if general anesthesia is needed my husband is unable to be with me.
- I do not want extended family or friends to meet my newborn until I have recovered and have had time to bond with my baby (My husband is excluded from this).
- To have my hands free
- To place baby skin to skin as possible after birth
- For my husband to stay with the baby at all times after birth
- That someone is with me in recovery
My birth plan used to be a lot longer. However, when we finally selected the hospital I took out what was standard care in this hospital. This way they just see the bullet points of things that are not routine practice. I hope this post helps anyone that may be confused on where to start in their birth plan. If you have any questions feel free to message me using the contact tab. I’d be happy to send you my full list of questions I had for the tours.